12 thoughts on “Insight

  1. Yeah.. thats a key to the friendzone. “He is just so nice and funny and I feel so free to talk to him, he doesn’t expect anything from me…” and then sudenly you realise that he has been flirting with you all the time, you just didn’t get it. But by that time he has already a crush on you and you are already so deep on a friend level that you can’t see him in any other way. And here comes the good time to panic :D
    Has happened to me many times and I guess I will never learn :S

  2. haha, always spot on *g* this is a good example of the damage feminism has done to the male/female relationship. men now always are expected to be “nice and understanding” blah blah blah.. the problem is, thats neither what men are at their core, nor what women actually are longing for. it’s basically the castrated form of what men once were. how can a castrated man be attractive and sexy for a “real” and strong women? guess what – he’s not. men need to learn to lose all this “be nice” crap, and just be the authentic and yes, sometimes direct and “hands-on” macho they originally are. why do you think men have about 10x more testosterone than women?? make use of it! ;)

  3. Women can read your mind when you did something bad that you want to hide from them. But when you’re in love – or trying to get into their bed – their female intuition goes into ‘frequency hopping’ mode.

  4. @Eeva: you’ve hit the nail on the head. But can you also enlighten me: WHY does it become “impossible” to see someone in a different light? Why the small window of opportunity? I’d really like to know. Mind you, a good answer could land you an appearance in a HS cartoon :-)

    @Bart: but you still got married, didn’t you? ;)

  5. jeroen: i did fall in love with one of my best friends. i could see him in a different way. my female intuition wasn’t wrong. but it turned out out we had so high expectations towards ourselves (not towards each other) that it got all ruined. that’s the biggest danger in being love with a ‘prevoius’ friend. so don’t hesitate for too long, go for her. so that she knows it from the beginning.

  6. @jeroen: Probably this is the problem with nice guys they want to connect on an emotional level where as female intution puts you into friendzone if you wait even a little :(

  7. to “see someone in a different light” would be deconstructing perceived and often emotional foundations in the mind…it is hard to do specially if there isnt any opportunity (usually an incident) to divert ones sight from its “common peripherals”… its like a kid’s “i spy game” sometimes you miss seeing the whole picture because you were focused on looking on a particular spot within that picture…(sorry had to comment even if it was meant for Eevah…)

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